tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3255735347955921173.post2530557455632729966..comments2023-12-20T05:43:38.163-05:00Comments on The Princess and The Pump: A Type 1 Diabetes Blog: It's Not You, It's Me: An Open Letter to My FriendsHallie Addingtonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11331775099035220917noreply@blogger.comBlogger28125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3255735347955921173.post-79767260905289424072011-05-07T12:07:56.391-04:002011-05-07T12:07:56.391-04:00I just came across your blog today and I can't...I just came across your blog today and I can't seem to pull away. I can relate all to well. Our daughter was diagnosed almost a year ago at the age of 2. We are not on a pump but your diagnosis, letter to friends scariest night of your life ugh! It made me cry reading all of it. Your blog is perfect makes me know we aren't alone. Keep it up! Good luck to you and your beautiful family!Rachelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02779379285132851333noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3255735347955921173.post-29426034522763185152011-04-02T22:30:04.258-04:002011-04-02T22:30:04.258-04:00How have I not commented on this post? I know I re...How have I not commented on this post? I know I read it! Ugh.<br /><br />Anyway, AMAZING job, friend. You said what I think all the time. It is definitely ME and not my friends.Tracyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14099684353285067828noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3255735347955921173.post-13467374481681756572011-03-13T09:18:44.540-04:002011-03-13T09:18:44.540-04:00I couldnt have said it better! Although it is my h...I couldnt have said it better! Although it is my husband who is diabetic, not my child, I still feel the same. So alone. So drained. So tired mentally and physically. I don't think people understand why I am tired. In fact I know some of my own family don't get it. It is so frustrating! Great post :)Sandyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07361096702591999799noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3255735347955921173.post-88946686513657604052011-03-12T12:30:36.744-05:002011-03-12T12:30:36.744-05:00Hallie, I'm not a D-mom but a very good friend...Hallie, I'm not a D-mom but a very good friend is. She pointed out this post and after reading it, I wanted to thank you for helping non-diabetes folks understand a little better what our friends and families go through on a daily basis. When you use the word 'grieving' it was a real eye-opener... because reading your words, you were describing me too, grieving the death of my sister (2005) and my father (2011). That really is the truth, that you feel empty, guilty, tired, etc. Sometimes those of us without Diabetes in our lives forget the struggle you go through every day and how it affects every aspect of your life and your families' lives... Thank you so much for giving a new perspective to a scary disease. I find that most people think it's not big deal because those suffering through it try to lessen the severity by saying 'oh we're fine, things are good, etc' when in reality it's a very frightening existence. You are all very strong women and I commend each of you!!blogmeslimhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06942812785250385492noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3255735347955921173.post-69607620771304047732011-03-11T01:45:13.452-05:002011-03-11T01:45:13.452-05:00It's not you, it's D! ;)
Great post, as u...It's not you, it's D! ;) <br />Great post, as usual. <br /><br />(((Hugs))Amyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05084048230640305342noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3255735347955921173.post-72069146248376819762011-03-10T17:33:43.249-05:002011-03-10T17:33:43.249-05:00This was my first visit to your blog. Thank you fo...This was my first visit to your blog. Thank you for this post. You have said so beautifully things I have been thinking but didn't know how to express.Bethnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3255735347955921173.post-60634662764961532772011-03-10T14:41:10.956-05:002011-03-10T14:41:10.956-05:00Reading your post--and the subsequent comments--ha...Reading your post--and the subsequent comments--has made me realize that this disease creates parallel lives. I mean, you took the words right out of my mouth. It's amazing. Sad, and yet comforting. I think I need to frequent your blog a little more often than I've been, just to know that I'm definitely not alone....especially when I don't want to burden friends and family. <br />Thanks for writing and sharing with us.Heidinoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3255735347955921173.post-49299671881819438802011-03-09T20:32:47.486-05:002011-03-09T20:32:47.486-05:00Hallie, I love this post. Did I write it? : )
J...Hallie, I love this post. Did I write it? : )<br /><br />Just today I was thinking about a friendship that has become very distant. She just doesn't "get" type 1 and.....that makes it hard.....but you understand, huh?Tracy1918https://www.blogger.com/profile/11192789929262055057noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3255735347955921173.post-45674597285893082952011-03-09T11:43:17.286-05:002011-03-09T11:43:17.286-05:00Thank you SO much for this! I love your blog, but...Thank you SO much for this! I love your blog, but this entry really gets to the heart of the matter when it comes to OUR friends. I often feel guilty because I don't return a message on FB or return a phone call - I never even "got it" myself, so you brought me into a bit of self-realization. My son is 4 years old and was also dx'd almost 2 years ago, so I am truly in the boat with you! But I will keep fighting right along with you...and pray for both of us!Laurenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16401427133500714420noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3255735347955921173.post-27588281436295143122011-03-08T12:50:50.998-05:002011-03-08T12:50:50.998-05:00Hugs Hallie.
I think 4 years of this has numbed m...Hugs Hallie.<br /><br />I think 4 years of this has numbed me a little, but it still is maddening at times. <br /><br />Know that each and every day we are here with you, and for you.Lorraine of "This is Caleb..."https://www.blogger.com/profile/09315834486942916744noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3255735347955921173.post-11514060317078614442011-03-08T02:31:15.644-05:002011-03-08T02:31:15.644-05:00I have been struggling with this as well. I'm ...I have been struggling with this as well. I'm tired. I'm exhausted. I'm drained. I don't feel like the "me" I know used to be there. I'm more jealous of non-D people and their flexible lifestyle. I have zero sympathy for my friends when they complain about being sick for a few days. And I don't like that person...that tired, jealous person who doesn't feel like my "normal" self. Some days it's easy and no big deal...some days it seems difficult beyond comprehension and it IS a big deal and all I want to do is cry. Thanks for letting us all know we're not alone! You're not alone either! :)Valeriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17032040751678678327noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3255735347955921173.post-63397302606850408632011-03-08T00:06:41.409-05:002011-03-08T00:06:41.409-05:00Oh yeah, IT'S TOTALLY ME my friends! I miss ...Oh yeah, IT'S TOTALLY ME my friends! I miss the old me too. <br />Really great post Hallie. You said so many things that have been through my mind. Also made me ponder..WHY is it that I tell others how "great" Ally's doing? Is it that how she is doing is a reflection on me? Or is it that I don't want to sound like I'm looking for pity?Mistyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17818861980843167968noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3255735347955921173.post-8689166131506403562011-03-07T23:23:42.389-05:002011-03-07T23:23:42.389-05:00I've been wanting to write this letter for awh...I've been wanting to write this letter for awhile now, but never could have said it so perfectly. Thank you for sharing!Joannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15030783893373288244noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3255735347955921173.post-10853183397057665912011-03-07T22:23:30.359-05:002011-03-07T22:23:30.359-05:00Once again, THANK YOU, for putting into words some...Once again, THANK YOU, for putting into words something I've tried to casually portray with my friends. I don't ever know how much they really want to know how my day is going when they ask, even ask how my daughter is doing with it all. I went out to dinner with an old Moms group I used to be apart of and so involved in before D, and now it is so hard to face them. They think it is a big joke that I joined them for dinner when I haven't hardly seen them since "the day" (9/2/09). I spent the entire night holding my tongue unless directly asked how she was doing with diabetes, and even then I kept it at a minimum. Instead, my Mom has reminded me to take the opportunity to inform and educate all of those people out there that have no idea...and let's face it, that's everyone that doesn't have a diabetic child, and even more specifically, a toddler. Everyone that offers to watch my child, is so kind, but it will never work and they will not know how to take care of her without hours of training...and even then, it is only if they care enough to understand how serious this disease is. No one seems to get that we live, day to day! Day to Day, people!! My letter might look something like: "Cut me some slack, people. People, that I used to call friends!!! Sorry, now I'm starting to vent a little.<br />Anyway, thanks for sharing this awesome letter.amberhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04912894436076427004noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3255735347955921173.post-20001612521792548652011-03-07T12:37:48.886-05:002011-03-07T12:37:48.886-05:00Perfect. SO perfect.
It's me, too.
I have ...Perfect. SO perfect. <br /><br />It's me, too.<br /><br />I have struggled with this issue for quite some time. I know that I have not handled my feelings... and the feelings of my friends with as much grace as I should have. <br /><br />I love that in the end you thanked your friends for sticking by you. I need to do that too.Donnahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07096733957672343933noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3255735347955921173.post-84477600515873764242011-03-07T12:26:30.211-05:002011-03-07T12:26:30.211-05:00Hallie-
HUGS to you! I don't have a child with...Hallie-<br />HUGS to you! I don't have a child with D, but being PWD I still understand what you mean. Thank you for your honesty. I think it's so much easier to hide the pain we go through everyday. I know it sounds obnoxious, but things will get better, the longer she has D. It will still be hard, but because of all you have done, she will grow into a very capable adult. You are wonderful. My prayers are with you! Thanks for being my D Mama Friend! :)Rachaelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05219957703310589818noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3255735347955921173.post-63488239273570921972011-03-07T12:06:47.723-05:002011-03-07T12:06:47.723-05:00My Mum is Britsh - and we tend to have a way about...My Mum is Britsh - and we tend to have a way about us where we don't express our true feelings. I'm luckily not that way - total opposite (I'm a freak). The reason for my comment here - my Mum has never really told me how she found it being my caregiver as an infant. I know she did say - that today there are so many tools that parents have to know exactly what is going on in our bodies as diabetics compared to what we had in the 60's - that it probably is very worrying. I always wonder what it would have been like for her if she'd known other Mum's of diabetic children - but she was all alone.<br /><br />It's so good that the D-OC is around - that we're able to touch base with others that "get it". Hang in there - with time and the way you do things now for your Princess - she will thank you for all of what you've done.<br /><br />I thank my Mum and all of you great D-Mum's out there and am giving you a ((( virtual hug ))) (though I know in reality my Mum would be going "ugh" at this display of affection ).FatCatAnnahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07066683693099915727noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3255735347955921173.post-89070124744866346032011-03-07T10:38:59.848-05:002011-03-07T10:38:59.848-05:00Girl, do I understand. : )
It does get better. I ...Girl, do I understand. : )<br />It does get better. I remember not ever going out-and I had a bbsitter who gave Mary Claire a bolus for food when she was 57!! (I never asked her back) (she was young, and didn't understand)<br />Now, we have two reliable babysitters, and my mom can follow good directions. I just post "call me if she's not 81-124" on the note! and I'm totally on the phone the whole time...but it's worth it! : ) It gets better when they can check themselves and use a cell phone too. ; )<br />I promise it gets better.<br />Praying for you to find a good babysitter, and enjoy your husband and friends. If you want to head down our way (Arkansas), I'll watch her for you. : ) She'd have fun with our circus! heeheeHollyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13864147601205439993noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3255735347955921173.post-11594889354756137582011-03-07T09:09:17.776-05:002011-03-07T09:09:17.776-05:00Well said, Hallie. I understand how you feel. We&#...Well said, Hallie. I understand how you feel. We've simply accepted that life revolves around Sarah's diabetes. Our social life, our choice to homeschool, where/what we can eat, everything. I just wanted to let you know that you're not alone.Laurahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02236570036160251773noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3255735347955921173.post-60543656529842681232011-03-07T08:28:43.415-05:002011-03-07T08:28:43.415-05:00Wonderful post...I can really relate. I have been...Wonderful post...I can really relate. I have been thinking and feeling the exact same thing the last couple of days. I just feel so alone and like I can no longer relate to anyone else (unless they are a parent of a child with diabetes). It's a lonely feeling.NikDuckhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00339827779693006419noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3255735347955921173.post-79160561375143832472011-03-07T07:55:27.599-05:002011-03-07T07:55:27.599-05:00Aw Hallie...PERFECT POST. This is definitely a &q...Aw Hallie...PERFECT POST. This is definitely a "touchy subject" that you handled with grace and you said it all so well.<br /><br />I hated feeling like I should "have it together" within 6 months after Joe's diagnosis, a year after Joe's diagnois...18 months after Joe's diagnosis. It was embarassing to "not be there" physically and emotionally for all of my buddies. I used to be the life of the party...I used to be a strong supporter of those around me...I used to be the one who would listen to those in need...that all stopped on 9/17/06. My life changed. I changed. I lost part of me. My family and friends lost part of me. Luckily...a new me...a slightly crazier...and stronger me...emerged. It has taken time. It has taken great effort. And...I still lose myself in the "D" game now and again...over 4years into this.<br /><br />LOVE YOU.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00895126112651188056noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3255735347955921173.post-56475902932090986872011-03-07T05:59:54.107-05:002011-03-07T05:59:54.107-05:00Thanks Hallie...I am not good with words and yours...Thanks Hallie...I am not good with words and yours just gave words to how I feel. I can do this because I know I am not alone, even when I feel like it most times.travellerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04088671117089469654noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3255735347955921173.post-6566825793668922822011-03-07T01:07:32.350-05:002011-03-07T01:07:32.350-05:00Your posts are so timely, Hailee. You often convey...Your posts are so timely, Hailee. You often convey EXACTLY what I'm thinking. I'm sharing this with my D Mums Down Under.<br />Big Love, and I think I saw that it was Sweetpea's birthday over the weekend? Please give her a big hug from us. xxx Kate and D.Katehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14788292113056558586noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3255735347955921173.post-17839401559013430812011-03-07T00:29:37.490-05:002011-03-07T00:29:37.490-05:00I know its me. I don't feel like I "fit&q...I know its me. I don't feel like I "fit" anymore. My life is so much different than it was 2 years ago. I'm too tired to try...<br /><br />great post Hallie :)Lorahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07192247387107228743noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3255735347955921173.post-61801443006637805272011-03-07T00:24:06.994-05:002011-03-07T00:24:06.994-05:00Wow. Just wow. That was so perfectly said...so man...Wow. Just wow. That was so perfectly said...so many of those things have been swimming in my head. Thank you. ((hugs))Stephaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05703099150939801754noreply@blogger.com